Some Topics Shared in the Book "Being Generous"

— Discourse about the central need for generosity as a solution to our personal
as well as the world’s problems.

— How to discern when and where to give and what to support

— Why change is a generous act

— Why it is imperative to practice generosity with yourself as well as others

— What makes up a generous language, a generous way of being

—  Practicing moral choices

— Why considering oneself a good person is not good enough

—  Generosity isn’t charity.  It’s different.  It lives in the everyday practice of
the economics of the heart.

—  Giving is only one part of being generous.  Without receiving and circulating
it can become a one-way transaction.

—  There are ten virtues that are imperative to conscious generosity.

—   Generosity flourishes in going further than expected, what we call “extra mile” or “double and” giving e.g. giving what hurts to give, giving when you don’t have enough to give, giving what you need to receive (the best medicine), giving beyond money and gifts (sharing talents and personality for the benefit of others).  Giving time, forgetting ourselves for other’s joy and fulfillment brings personal happiness to the giver.

— Why giving up expectations of return on one’s giving enables something bigger to happen.

— Receiving rest and a balanced life is part of being generous

— Being generous with each other’s creativity and not criticizing each other’s art.

— Practicing the loving art of receptivity.

— Circulating occurs when what has been given and received ripples out into a larger environment.

— Circulating spreads when we dare to share for the greater good what we have
experienced and received.

— Circulating is not giving back to the receiver or giving in equalizing measure what has been received.  It is passing on the generosity of one to many in community.

— Generous circulating is not replying to “group” or circulating information on the internet unless it is from the heart and is consciously given to aid relationship. 

—  Generosity needs community to circulate because we commonly assume our generosity can be “freelance” and in circulating to the greater good it usually can’t be. Circulating in community enables our generosity to have greater impact.
We need others of similar hearts and minds to practice generosity — to be able to cultivate a generous attitude.  Love in action requires others to give, receive and circulate with us.  We need to be thinking hearts for each other to enable each other.

— Communities that do not practice the art of right living — generously giving, receiving and circulating the gifts of its members as well as the work and intentions of its mandate — become bureaucracies.

—   A generous community is defined by its priority to the poor.  Poverty is usually misunderstood as those without food, money or a home.  But there are other forms of poverty — poverty of enthusiasm caused by ill health or depression; poverty of fellowship caused by troubled or uneasy minds; poverty of joylessness through a hurt or closed heart; poverty of being without meaning; poverty of generosity resulting from not experiencing its art by giving, receiving and circulating.

— The common errors we make against generosity are when we give conditionally, we strive for exchange, we wonder what we will get back, we wish to look good or curtail feelings of duty and guilt.

— The attributes of a generous person is to be a willing problem solver, a “yes” person, a need finder, an opportunity multiplier, a truth teller, a community maker, a filler-upper, a fore-giver.

— Being generous is food for the soul.  It is present in all major religions.  It requires time to be generous to our souls, time for a spiritual practice, silence and contemplation to discern our motives for giving, our gratitude for what has already been received and to practice being generous to the Divine.

— We cannot forget ourselves for the good of others unless we remember God.

— We need to be generous to our Earth as She is to us.

— Being generous as a spiritual practice is to make the sacred central in our day.

— Being conscious enables us to recognize the needs of others and to discern our role in supplying them.

— Being conscious means being awake.   Being generous means waking up our heart and the hearts of others. 
All these subjects and much more, including stories of real-life experiences, examples of lessons learned, and the magical hope and healing that comes from the practice of true generosity. 


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